40天真心爱大挑战之4：勇于认错

亲密关系难免会有伤害，可能不是因为行动少，而是因为亲密关系中，标准和期待比其他关系要高。学会饶恕是亲密关系的必须。但真正的饶恕对方，和被对方饶恕会使两人更亲密。夫妻之间要学会说“对不起”，“我错了”，“请原谅”，“我爱你”；这些简单的话要从心里真诚而自然的表达出来。（编者）

【第二十二天】Day 22

Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.

选择矢志不渝地忠于执守你对配偶的爱情，纵然对方已经对此意兴阑珊。

相关经文：

<Hos 2:20> I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the LORD.

<何西阿书2:20> 也以诚实聘你归我，你就必认识我耶和华。

【第二十三天】Day 23

Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.

除去所有的”第三者”，这些东西有损健康的夫妻关系，偷窃你对配偶的爱情，夺走你对配偶的爱心。

相关经文:

<1Co 13:5> It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

<哥林多前书13:5> 不作害羞的事，不求自己的益处，不轻易发怒，不计算人的恶。

【第二十四天】Day 24

Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.

找出你生命中每一项不良嗜好，并将之抛弃。

相关经文:

<1Jo 2:17> The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.

<约翰一书 2:17> 这世界和其上的情欲都要过去，惟独遵行神旨意的，是永远常存。

【第二十五天】Day 25

If there is anything you haven’t forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today.

如果还有任何事情你还不曾原谅你的配偶，请在今天原谅他/她。

相关经文：

<2Co 2:10> If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven–if there was anything to forgive–I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake,

<哥林多后书2:10> 你们赦免谁，我也赦免谁。我若有所赦免的，是在基督面前为你们赦免的。

【第二十六天】Day 26

Ask for God’s forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.

祈求上帝原谅你所做过的错事，然后诚恳谦卑地向你的配偶承认错误。

相关经文:

<Rom 2:1> You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.

<罗马书2:1> 你这论断人的，无论你是谁，也无可推诿。你在什么事上论断人，就在什么事上定自己的罪。因你这论断人的，自己所行却和别人一样。

【第二十七天】Day 27

Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it.

想一想，你的配偶曾告诉你，你对他期望值太高之处。请在今天为之道歉，对不起，在此事上难为了配偶。

相关经文:

<Psa 25:20> Guard my life and rescue me; let me not be put to shame, for I take refuge in you.

<诗篇25:20> 求你保护我的性命，搭救我，使我不至羞愧，因为我投靠你。

【第二十八天】Day 28

Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse’s life right now.

今天，倾心倾力，尽己所能来令你配偶人生中最大的愿望得以实现。

相关经文:

<1Jo 3:16> This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

<约翰一书3:16> 主为我们舍命，我们从此就知道何为爱，我们也当为弟兄舍命。

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