真爱挑战40天之5：你是我的谋士

夫妻之间常因为一些做决定的事情产生矛盾，常有一方觉得自己被忽略。有箴言说：不先商议，所谋无效；谋士众多，所谋乃成。配偶就是神放在我们生命中最好的谋士，学习首先去我们的配偶那里寻求建议，倾听意见，甚至一起作出决定。这不仅是婚姻的属灵功课，也会带领实际的祝福。因为神喜悦夫妻之间如此行，神所喜悦的，祂就赐福。（编者）

【第二十九天】Day 29

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.

今天，在再见到配偶之前，专门为他/她的需要祈祷。

相关经文：

<Eph 6:7> Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men.

<以弗所书6:7> 甘心侍奉，好像服侍主，不像服侍人。

【第三十天】Day 30

Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity.

祈求上帝向你揭示你内心隐藏的有碍夫妻同心的意念，如果可行，和配偶共商，向上帝寻求同一的心。

相关经文:

<Joh 17:11> I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name–the name you gave me–so that they may be one as we are one.

<约翰福音 17:11> 从今以后，我不在世上，他们却在世上，我往你那里去。圣父啊，求你因你所赐给我的名保守他们，叫他们合而为一，像我们一样。

【第三十一天】Day 31

Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

向上帝和配偶承诺，婚姻是你所有人际关系中的首选项，最为优先项。

相关经文:

<Gen 2:24> For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

<创世纪2:24> 因此，人要离开父母、与妻子连合，二人成为一体。

【第三十二天】Day 32

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today(in a way that honors them).

今天，如果可能，主动献殷勤，向配偶提供尊重体贴的贴身服务。

相关经文:

<1Co 7:3> The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.

<哥林多前书 7:3> 丈夫当用合宜之份待妻子，妻子待丈夫也要如此。

【第三十三天】Day 33

Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.

告诉配偶你很想让之参与以后所有事情的决策过程，你需要配偶的观感和劝告。

相关经文:

<Ecc 4:11> Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?

<传道书4:11> 再者，二人同睡，就都暖和；一人独睡,怎能暖和呢？

【第三十四天】Day 34

Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.

口头赞扬配偶，有关最近在他/她身上明显观察到的基督徒的品格。

相关经文:

<1Co 13:6> Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

<哥林多前书13:6> (爱)不喜欢不义，只喜欢真理。

【第三十五天】Day 35

Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

找一位基督徒婚姻辅导员。祈求上帝来指导你们的决定，帮助你们分辩是非。

相关经文:

<Pro 15:22> Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.

<箴言15:22> 不先商议，所谋无效；谋士众多，所谋乃成。

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