40天真心爱大挑战之2：求对方的益处

圣经说：爱是不求自己的益处。反过来也是对的，爱是求对方的益处。这一周的行动专注在满足配偶的需要上。自私的爱是站在自己的立场上苛求对方来满足自己，真正的爱是站在对方的立场，放下自己的尊贵来服事对方。爱，不是只给自己想给的，而是努力给予自己想要的。（编者）

【第八天】Day 8

Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

告诉你的配偶，你为他/她最近引以为豪的成就，感到由衷的快乐和喜悦。

相关经文：

<Son 8:6> Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm; for love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire, like a mighty flame.

<雅歌8:6> 求你将我放在你心上如印记，带在你臂上如戳记；因为爱情如死之坚强，嫉恨如阴间之残忍。所发的电光，是火焰的电光，是耶和华的烈焰。

【第九天】Day 9

Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm.

今天，想出一招去问候你的配偶，带着微笑和热情使出此招，来表达对配偶的爱意。

相关经文：

<1Pe 5:14> Greet one another with a kiss of love. Peace to all of you who are in Christ.

<彼得前书5:14> 你们要用爱心彼此亲嘴问安。愿平安归与你们凡在基督里的人！

【第十天】Day 10

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.

今天，为配偶做点非同寻常的事情。

相关经文:

<Rom 5:8> But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

<罗马书5:8> 惟有基督在我们还作罪人的时候为我们死，神的爱就在此向我们显明了。

【第十一天】Day 11

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today?

你的配偶有什么需求正好是你今天可以满足他/她的？

相关经文:

<Eph 5:28> In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

<以弗所书5:28> 丈夫也当照样爱妻子，如同爱自己的身子，爱妻子便是爱自己了。

【第十二天】Day 12

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.

为了展示爱情，在你和配偶意见分歧的一个方面，心甘情愿地选择妥协和让步。

相关经文：

<Php 2:4-5> Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. and I will suggest you to continue: Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.

<腓利比书 2:4-5> 各人不要单顾自己的事，也要顾别人的事。你们当以基督耶稣的心为心。

【第十三天】Day 13

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

和配偶协商，共同规划健康友好的条约来解决分歧，在以后的意见不合的时候，努力遵守并执行此条约。

相关经文:

<Mar 3:25> If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.

<马可福音3:25> 若一家自相纷争，那家就站立不住。

【第十四天】Day 14

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.

为了和配偶有更多高质量的相处时间，有意放弃一项你自己通常会做的活动。

相关经文:

<Ecc 9:9> Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun- all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.

<传道书9:9> 在你一生虚空的年日,就是神赐你在日光之下虚空的年日，当同你所爱的妻快活度日，因为那是你生前在日光之下劳碌的事上所得的份。

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